LUST/ਕਾਮਿ

ABSTRACT

ਮਾਇਆ ਮੋਹਿ ਸਗਲ ਜਗੁ ਛਾਇਆ ॥
ਕਾਮਣਿ ਦੇਖਿ ਕਾਮਿ ਲੋਭਾਇਆ ॥

Mā▫i▫ā mohi sagal jag cẖẖā▫i▫ā. Kāmaṇ ḏekẖ kām lobẖā▫i▫ā.

Emotional attachment to Maya is spread out all over the world. Seeing a beautiful woman, the man is overcome with sexual desire.-----Guru Nanak, Raag Parbhati, AGGS, Page, 1342-13

Lust implies a sexual desire in and of itself.  It can be caused by an erotic arousal.  It may manifest as a wish, or intense physical or sexual attraction or craving. In this sense, it is considered a vice and is foremost on the list of lower or animal instincts that humans are born with.

ਜਿਉ ਤਨੁ ਬਿਧਵਾ ਪਰ ਕਉ ਦੇਈ ॥
ਕਾਮਿ ਦਾਮਿ ਚਿਤੁ ਪਰ ਵਸਿ ਸੇਈ ॥
ਬਿਨੁ ਪਿਰ ਤ੍ਰਿਪਤਿ ਨ ਕਬਹੂੰ ਹੋਈ ॥

Ji▫o ṯan biḏẖvā par ka▫o ḏe▫ī. Kaam Daam Chit Par Vas Say-ee. Bin pir ṯaripaṯ na kabahūʼn ho▫ī.

The lonely widow gives her body to a stranger; Mind is controlled by others for lust or money, but without her husband, she is never satisfied.-----Guru Nanak, Raag Gauri, AGGS, Page, 226-2

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Lust is one’s desire for the gratification of sexual appetite.  It can become an obsessive desire. One can become eager, passionate, and even sinful, if the desire becomes particularly inordinate. 

Some people see lust as the purest form of love. This viewpoint argues that being a pure emotional wish, based upon physical attraction; it frees lust from the constraints of any emotional baggage.  One can respect it for what it is, without any negative inner conceptual responses.  It is a direct emotional inner instinct and desire of one person, to carnally know and be intimate with another. On the other hand, many people acknowledge that feelings of lust do not always imply feelings of love, and they make a strong distinction between the terms lust and love. Love in its pure form is said to be concerned with the well-being of the other.  On the other hand lust is more commonly a product of one’s own libidinal urges rather than a product of a desire for the well-being of the objects of lust.  However, the two can certainly co-exist.

In Judaism- Lust is acknowledged the that G‑d created us with such feelings, and it’s certainly not an aberration to feel lustful. However, outside of marriage, we are expected to be sufficiently aware of our higher calling, utilize our intellect, and muster enough inner fortitude to overcome our bodily drives. Excusing oneself by saying “It’s only human nature” is a sorry way to live, and slides you swiftly down a slippery slope. Talmud never associated saintliness with a dormant libido. "The Talmud even states, "The greater a man, the greater his evil inclination. Judaism also teaches that lust that results in male masturbation is wrong, as men are not supposed to spill their seed in vain.

In Catholicism, lust is subdivided into six categories: fornication, adultery, rape, incest, seduction, and unnatural vice.” Whosoever looked on a woman to lust after her, hath committed adultery with her already in his heart”. ----- Matt. v. 28. 

Islam-Lust in Islam is best understood as a lack of temperance that leads one astray from Allah, the proper name for God in Islam. Sexual desire is not at all forbidden in Islam so long as it remains within the boundaries of a committed relationship between two consenting adults. However, unbridled lust, be it pornography, masturbation, promiscuity, etc., is considered harmful and not in keeping with the tenets of Islam that extoll temperance as a governing virtue for a Muslim’s various appetites sexual or otherwise.

Buddhism- Lust is a perfectly normal and acceptable emotional state depending on the context of the experience. It’s not something that needs to be feared or completely combated out of existence if you're in a relationship with another person and that lust is directed at them. It's when the lust begins to breed attachment and sexual misconduct which can cause you to stray from the path that it becomes a problem.

                 

Hinduism-Sex in Hinduism is not a sin, but lust (Kaama; which is best translated as 'wanting') can be considered as one. Humans of all varna have 4 purushartha (or duties to perform) which are Dharma (righteousness, moral values), Artha (prosperity, economic values), Kāma (pleasure, love, psychological values) and Mokṣa (liberation, spiritual values).

   

In Sikhism it is the foremost on the list of five sins: Lust, Anger, Greed, Attachment, and Vanity.  It represents the lowest cardinal feelings causing an obstruction in one’s spiritual growth since affects his character.  Good moral character is an important ingredient, which cannot be separated from spirituality.

ਨਾਮ ਸੰਜੋਗੀ ਗੋਇਲਿ ਥਾਟੁ ॥

ਕਾਮ ਕ੍ਰੋਧ ਫੂਟੈ ਬਿਖੁ ਮਾਟੁ ॥

Naam Sanjogi Goel Thaat, Kaam Krodh Footay Bikh Maat.

Those who are committed to the Naam, see the world as merely a temporary pasture. Sexual desire and anger are broken, like a jar of poison.-----Guru Nanak, Raag Gauri, AGGS, Page, 153-1

ਮਨ ਕਾ ਸੂਤਕੁ ਲੋਭੁ ਹੈ ਜਿਹਵਾ ਸੂਤਕੁ ਕੂੜੁ ॥
ਅਖੀ ਸੂਤਕੁ ਵੇਖਣਾ ਪਰ ਤ੍ਰਿਅ ਪਰ ਧਨ ਰੂਪੁ ॥
ਕੰਨੀ ਸੂਤਕੁ ਕੰਨਿ ਪੈ ਲਾਇਤਬਾਰੀ ਖਾਹਿ ॥

Man Kaa Sootak Lobh Hai Jihvaa Sootak Koorh, Akhee Sootak Vaykh-Naa Par Tari-a par Dhan Roop, Kannee Sootak Kann Pai Laa-itbaaree Khaahi.

The impurity of the mind is greed, and the impurity of the tongue is falsehood. The impurity of the eyes is to gaze upon the beauty of another man's wife, and his wealth. The impurity of the ears is to listen to the slander of the others.-----Guru Nanak, Raag Asa, AGGS, Page, 472-16

ਰੂਪੀ ਭੁਖ ਨ ਉਤਰੈ ਜਾਂ ਦੇਖਾਂ ਤਾਂ ਭੁਖ ॥
ਜੇਤੇ ਰਸ ਸਰੀਰ ਕੇ ਤੇਤੇ ਲਗਹਿ ਦੁਖ ॥

Roopi Bhukh Na Utrai Jaan Dekhan Tan Bukh, Jetay Rus Sreer Kay Tetay Lageh Dukh.

Beauty does not satisfy hunger; when the man sees beauty, he hungers even more. Pleasures of the body are as numerous as the pains that afflict it.-----Guru Nanak, Raag Malar, AGGS, Page, 1287-14

ਰੂਪੈ ਕਾਮੈ ਦੋਸਤੀ ਭੁਖੈ ਸਾਦੈ ਗੰਢੁ ॥
ਲਬੈ ਮਾਲੈ ਘੁਲਿ ਮਿਲਿ ਮਿਚਲਿ ਊਂਘੈ ਸਉੜਿ ਪਲੰਘੁ ॥
ਭੰਉਕੈ ਕੋਪੁ ਖੁਆਰੁ ਹੋਇ ਫਕੜੁ ਪਿਟੇ ਅੰਧੁ ॥
ਚੁਪੈ ਚੰਗਾ ਨਾਨਕਾ ਵਿਣੁ ਨਾਵੈ ਮੁਹਿ ਗੰਧੁ ॥
Roopai Kaamai Dosti Bhukhai Saadai Gandh, Labai Maalai Ghul Mil Michal OoNghai Sa-urh Palangh, BhaNukai Kop Khu-aar Ho-ay Fakarh Pitay AnDh, Chupai Changa Nankaa Vin Naavai Muhi GanDh.

Beauty and sexual desire are friends as hunger and tasty food are tied together. Greed is bound up in its search for wealth, and sleep will use even a tiny space in a bed. Anger barks and brings ruin on itself, blindly engaging in useless conflicts. It is good to be silent, O Nanak; without the Name, one's mouth spews forth only filth. -----Guru Nanak, Raag Malar, AGGS, Page, 1288-13

Other reasons such as loneliness, wanting attention from the others, seeking affirmation, and desiring companionship can lead to lust.  Also in our efforts to avoid boredom, feeling close to someone else and seeking excitement can also lead to lust.  It is an inward sin, which leads to the falling away from God.  It can dominate consciousness which is the center of all moral forces, impulses and of spiritual activity.

ਕਾਮੁ ਕ੍ਰੋਧੁ ਮਾਇਆ ਮਹਿ ਚੀਤੁ ॥
ਝੂਠ ਵਿਕਾਰਿ ਜਾਗੈ ਹਿਤ ਚੀਤੁ ॥
ਪੂੰਜੀ ਪਾਪ ਲੋਭ ਕੀ ਕੀਤੁ ॥
Kaam Krodh Maya Meh Cheet, Jhooth Vikaar Jaagai Hit Cheet, Poonjee Paap Lobh Kee Keet.

The conscious mind is engrossed in sexual desire, anger and Maya. The conscious mind is awake only to falsehood, corruption and attachment. It gathers in the assets of sin and greed.-----Guru Nanak, Raag Gauri, AGGS, Page, 153-3

Some moralists consider lust to be a corruption of temperance, in the sense that when temperance fails, lust is the natural result.

ਰਾਜੁ ਮਾਲੁ ਰੂਪੁ ਜਾਤਿ ਜੋਬਨੁ ਪੰਜੇ ਠਗ ॥
ਏਨੀ ਠਗੀਂ ਜਗੁ ਠਗਿਆ ਕਿਨੈ ਨ ਰਖੀ ਲਜ ॥
ਏਨਾ ਠਗਨ੍ਹ੍ਹਿ ਠਗ ਸੇ ਜਿ ਗੁਰ ਕੀ ਪੈਰੀ ਪਾਹਿ ॥
ਨਾਨਕ ਕਰਮਾ ਬਾਹਰੇ ਹੋਰਿ ਕੇਤੇ ਮੁਠੇ ਜਾਹਿ ॥੨॥

Rāj māl rūp jāṯ joban panje ṯẖag.Ėnī ṯẖagīʼn jag ṯẖagi▫ā kinai na rakẖī laj.Ėnā ṯẖagniĥ ṯẖag se jė gur kī pairī pāhi.Nānak karmā bāhre hor keṯe muṯẖe jāhi. 

Royal power, wealth, beauty, social status and youth are the five thieves. These thieves have plundered the world; no one's honor has been spared. But these thieves themselves are robbed, by those who fall at the Guru's Feet. O Nanak, the multitudes who do not have good karma are plundered. -----Guru Nanak, Raag Malar, AGGS, Page 1288

ਜਗੁ ਤ੍ਰਿਅ ਜਿਤੁ ਕਾਮਣਿ ਹਿਤਕਾਰੀ ॥
ਪੁਤ੍ਰ ਕਲਤ੍ਰ ਲਗਿ ਨਾਮੁ ਵਿਸਾਰੀ ॥
Jug Tria Jit Kaamin Hitkaree, Putar Kaltar Lag Naam Visaaree.

Women conquer the men of the world who love the ladies. Attached to children and wife, they forget the Naam.

ਕਨਿਕ ਕਾਮਨੀ ਹੇਤੁ ਗਵਾਰਾ ॥
ਦੁਬਿਧਾ ਲਾਗੇ ਨਾਮੁ ਵਿਸਾਰਾ ॥
Kanik Kaminee Hayt Gavaaraa, Dubhidha Laagay Naam Visaaraa.

The fool loves gold and women. Attached to duality, he has forgotten the Naam.-----Guru Nanak Raag Asa, AGGS, Page, 412 and 416

ਕੋਟਿ ਕੋਟਿ ਤੇਤੀਸ ਧਿਆਵਹਿ ਤਾ ਕਾ ਅੰਤੁ ਨ ਪਾਵਹਿ ਪਾਰੇ ॥
ਹਿਰਦੈ ਕਾਮ ਕਾਮਨੀ ਮਾਗਹਿ ਰਿਧਿ ਮਾਗਹਿ ਹਾਥੁ ਪਸਾਰੇ ॥

Kot kot ṯeṯīs ḏẖi▫āvahi ṯā kā anṯ na pāvahi pāre. Hirḏai kām kāmnī māgėh riḏẖ māgėh hāth pasāre.

Millions, three hundred thirty millions of gods meditate on God, but they cannot find Its end or limitation. With sexual urges in their hearts, they beg for beautiful women; stretching out their hands, they beg for riches.-----Guru Ram Das, Raag Ramkali, AGGS, Page, 882-11

ਜਿਉ ਕਾਮੀ ਕਾਮਿ ਲੁਭਾਵੈ ॥
ਤਿਉ ਹਰਿ ਦਾਸ ਹਰਿ ਜਸੁ ਭਾਵੈ ॥
Jeo Kaamee Kaam Lubhavai, Teo Har Daas Har Jas Bhavai.

Lustful man is enticed by lust in the same way as the God's slave pleased with the It's Praise.-----Guru Arjan, Raag Sorath, AGGS, and Page, 629-5

The word lust means strong sexual desire but it is also used metaphorically for other forms of desire e.g. power etc. It is considered vice by many religions.

ਹੇ ਕਾਮੰ ਨਰਕ ਬਿਸ੍ਰਾਮੰ ਬਹੁ ਜੋਨੀ ਭ੍ਰਮਾਵਣਹ ॥
ਚਿਤ ਹਰਣੰ ਤ੍ਰੈ ਲੋਕ ਗੰਮ੍ਯ੍ਯੰ ਜਪ ਤਪ ਸੀਲ ਬਿਦਾਰਣਹ ॥
ਅਲਪ ਸੁਖ ਅਵਿਤ ਚੰਚਲ ਊਚ ਨੀਚ ਸਮਾਵਣਹ ॥
Hay Kaaman Narak Bisraaman Boh Joni Bharmaavneh, Chit HarnaN Tarai Lok Gam-yaN Jap Tap Seel Bidaarneh, Alap Sukh Avit Chanchal Ooch Neech Samaavneh.

O sexual desire, you lead the mortals to hell; you make them wander in reincarnation through countless species. You cheat the consciousness, and pervade the three worlds. You destroy meditation, penance and virtue. But you give only shallow pleasure, while you make the mortals weak and unsteady; you pervade the high and the low.-----Guru Arjun, Sahskirti Slokes, AGGS, Page, 1358-3

Sabd Guru refers to examples of lustful behavior by Hindu trinity & deities. Why Krishna seduced Gopi Chandravali, Indra king of gods seduced Ahalya wife of sage Gautama and was punished by developing thousands images of vulva or vagina on his body and Brahma’s fifth head was cut off by Shiva being infatuated by the beauty of his daughter Savitri?                               

Q. Is it OK for the deities to indulge in these indiscretions of character?

ਜੁਜ ਮਹਿ ਜੋਰਿ ਛਲੀ ਚੰਦ੍ਰਾਵਲਿ ਕਾਨ੍ਹ੍ਹ ਕ੍ਰਿਸਨੁ ਜਾਦਮੁ ਭਇਆ ॥

ਪਾਰਜਾਤੁ ਗੋਪੀ ਲੈ ਆਇਆ ਬਿੰਦ੍ਰਾਬਨ ਮਹਿ ਰੰਗੁ ਕੀਆ ॥

Juj meh jor cẖẖalī cẖanḏrāval kānĥ krisan jāḏam bẖa­i­ā. Pārjāṯ gopī lai ā­i­ā binḏrāban meh rang kī­ā.

In the Jujar Veda, Kahn Krishna of the Yaadva tribe seduced Chandraavali by force. He brought the Elysian Tree (Blissful heavenly tree) for his milk-maid, and reveled in Brindaban.-----Guru Nanak, Raag Asa, AGGS, Page, 470-6

ਗੋਤਮੁ ਤਪਾਅਹਿਲਿਆ ਇਸਤ੍ਰੀ ਤਿਸੁ ਦੇਖਿ ਇੰਦ੍ਰੁ ਲੁਭਾਇਆ ॥

ਸਹਸ ਸਰੀਰ ਚਿਹਨ ਭਗ ਹੂਏ ਤਾ ਮਨਿ ਪਛੋਤਾਇਆ ॥

Goṯam ṯapā ahili­ā isṯarī ṯis ḏėkẖ inḏar lubẖā­i­ā.Sahas sarīr cẖihan bẖag hū­ė ṯā man pacẖẖoṯā­i­ā.

Ahalya was the wife of Gautama the seer. Seeing her, Indra was enticed. When he received a thousand marks of disgrace (female organs), on his body, he was regretful in his mind.-----Guru Nanak, Raag Parbhati Dakhni, AGGS, Page, 1343-1344-1

ਸਹੰਸਰ ਦਾਨ ਦੇ ਇੰਦ੍ਰੁ ਰੋਆਇਆ ॥

ਪਰਸ ਰਾਮੁ ਰੋਵੈ ਘਰਿ ਆਇਆ ॥

Sahaʼnsar ḏān ḏė inḏar ro­ā­i­ā.Paras rām rovai gẖar ā­i­ā.

Branded with a thousand marks of disgrace (female organs) on his body, Indra cried in shame. Paras Ram returned home crying.-----Guru Nanak, Vaar Raag Ramkali, AGGS, Page, 953-18

ਗੋਤਮ ਨਾਰਿ ਉਮਾਪਤਿ ਸ੍ਵਾਮੀ ॥

ਸੀਸੁ ਧਰਨਿ ਸਹਸ ਭਗ ਗਾਂਮੀ ॥

Goṯam nār umāpaṯ savāmī.Sīs ḏẖaran sahas bẖag gāʼnmī.

Gautama’s wife and god Indra mated.  Shiva cut off Brahma's 5th head, being bewitched by the beauty of his own daughter Savitri.  Brahma's head got stuck to Shiva's hand.  And Indra came to bear the marks of a thousand female organs.-----Ravidas, Raag Jaitsari, AGGS, Page, 710-17

ਅਨਿਕ ਪਾਤਿਕ ਹਰਤਾ ਤ੍ਰਿਭਵਣ ਨਾਥੁ ਰੀ ਤੀਰਥਿ ਤੀਰਥਿ ਭ੍ਰਮਤਾ ਲਹੈ ਨ ਪਾਰੁ ਰੀ ॥

ਕਰਮ ਕਰਿ ਕਪਾਲੁ ਮਫੀਟਸਿ ਰੀ ॥

Anik pāṯik harṯā ṯaribẖavaṇ nāth rī ṯirath ṯirath bẖarmaṯā lahai na pār rī. Karam kar kapāl mafītas rī.

Shiva, the destroyer of countless sins, the Master of the three worlds, wandered from sacred shrine to sacred shrine; he never found an end to them. And yet, he could not erase the karma of cutting off Brahma's head.-----Trilochan, Raag Dhanasari, AGGS, Page, 695-6

Physiology:

The chemical neurotransmitters are released by the brain cells due to the stimulation caused by food, sex, drugs, and social esteem. These are Dopamine and or Endorphins or Opiates, which flood and bathe the neurons of the right ventral segmental area.  Prefrontal cortex is involved in the memory and the emotions related to love or lust.  It causes pleasurable feelings of joy, while the amygdale, associated with fear, gets temporarily inhibited. Androgens and estrogens also drive the craving for sexual gratification or lust. High dopamine and epinephrine and low serotonin levels drive attraction or passionate love with intense craving. Oxytocin and vasopressin hormones drive attachment.

 ਜਿਉ ਕੂਕਰੁ ਹਰਕਾਇਆ ਧਾਵੈ ਦਹ ਦਿਸ ਜਾਇ ॥

ਲੋਭੀ ਜੰਤੁ ਨ ਜਾਣਈ ਭਖੁ ਅਭਖੁ ਸਭ ਖਾਇ ॥

ਕਾਮ ਕ੍ਰੋਧ ਮਦਿ ਬਿਆਪਿਆ ਫਿਰਿ ਫਿਰਿ ਜੋਨੀ ਪਾਇ ॥

Ji-o Kookar Harkaa-i-aa Dhaavai Dah Dis Jaa-ay, Lobhee Jant Na Jaan-ee Bhakh Abhakh Sabh Khaa-ay, Kaam Krodh Mud Biaapiaa Fir Fir Jonee Paey.

Like the mad dog running around in all directions, the greedy person, unaware, consumes everything, edible and non-edible alike. Engrossed in the intoxication of sexual desire and anger, people wander through reincarnation over and over again.-----Guru Arjun Siri Raag, AGGS, Page, 50-7

Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection, an intense personal attachment for another person.  A person in love feels a strong liking or enthusiasm toward the object of his love.  Lust on the other hand, is an intense appetite or sexual desire centered on the other person.

ਕਾਮਵੰਤ ਕਾਮੀ ਬਹੁ ਨਾਰੀ ਪਰ ਗ੍ਰਿਹ ਜੋਹ ਨ ਚੂਕੈ ॥

ਦਿਨ ਪ੍ਰਤਿ ਕਰੈ ਕਰੈ ਪਛੁਤਾਪੈ ਸੋਗ ਲੋਭ ਮਹਿ ਸੂਕੈ ॥

Kamvant Kaami Bauh Naari Per Greh Joh Na Chookai, Din Prit Karai Pachtaapai Soag Loabh Meh Sookai.

The lustful, lecherous man desires many women, and never stops peeking in to the homes of the others. Day after day, he commits adultery again and again, and then he regrets his actions.   He wastes away in misery and greed.-----Guru Arjun, Raag Dhanasari, AGGS, Page, 672-6

ਕਾਮੀ ਕ੍ਰੋਧੀ ਚਾਤੁਰੀ ਬਾਜੀਗਰ ਬੇਕਾਮ ॥

ਨਿੰਦਾ ਕਰਤੇ ਜਨਮੁ ਸਿਰਾਨੋ ਕਬਹੂ ਨ ਸਿਮਰਿਓ ਰਾਮੁ ॥

Kaami Krodhi Chaturee Bajigar Bekaam, Ninda Kartay Janam Sirano Kabho Na Simrio Ram.

The lustful, angry, clever, deceitful and the lazy waste their lives in slander, and never remember their God in meditation.-----Kabir Raag Maru, AGGS, Page, 1105-18

Control of sexual behavior:

How do men and women control their sexual behavior? Is it really possible to stop impure thoughts? How do we find purity in our sexual desires when we have indulged in relationships for many years?

Q. Why doesn’t God just wipe out all our sexual desires, like pulling the plug from a wall socket?

A. Because our sexuality is an integral part of our humanness, meant for future progeny. Our sexual longings have become distorted, but they are nevertheless a marvelous creation and wonderful part of us as human beings.

ਸਾਂਤੀ ਵਿਚਿ ਕਾਰ ਕਮਾਵਣੀ ਸਾ ਖਸਮੁ ਪਾਏ ਥਾਇ ॥

ਨਾਨਕ ਕਾਮਿ ਕ੍ਰੋਧਿ ਕਿਨੈ ਨ ਪਾਇਓ ਪੁਛਹੁ ਗਿਆਨੀ ਜਾਇ ॥

Sāʼnṯī vicẖ kār kamāvṇī sā kẖasam pā▫e thā▫e. Nānak kām kroḏẖ kinai na pā¬i¬o pucẖẖahu gi¬ānī jā¬ė.

If good deeds are done in this state of peace, they are approved by God and Master. O, Nanak, through sexual desire and anger, no one has ever found God; go, and ask any wise man.-----Guru Amar Das, Raag Bihagrha, AGGS, Page, 551-19

Maturity comes as we learn to control our sexuality. Just as our body’s muscles are strengthened by exercise, so our spiritual strength is built up by exercising self-control and maturity in our sexual choices.

ਪਰਹਰਿ ਕਾਮ ਕ੍ਰੋਧੁ ਝੂਠੁ ਨਿੰਦਾ ਤਜਿ ਮਾਇਆ ਅਹੰਕਾਰੁ ਚੁਕਾਵੈ ॥

ਤਜਿ ਕਾਮੁ ਕਾਮਿਨੀ ਮੋਹੁ ਤਜੈ ਤਾ ਅੰਜਨ ਮਾਹਿ ਨਿਰੰਜਨੁ ਪਾਵੈ ॥

ਤਜਿ ਮਾਨੁ ਅਭਿਮਾਨੁ ਪ੍ਰੀਤਿ ਸੁਤ ਦਾਰਾ ਤਜਿ ਪਿਆਸ ਆਸ ਰਾਮ ਲਿਵ ਲਾਵੈ ॥

Parhar Kaam KroDh Jhooth Nindaa Taj Maa-i-aa AhaNkaar Chukhaavai, Tuj Kaam Kamini Moh Tajai Ta Anjan Maeh Niranjan Pavai, Taj Maan Abhimaan Pareet Sut Daaraa Taj Pi-aas Aas Raam Liv Laavai.

Renounce sexual desire, anger, falsehood and slander; forsake Maya and eliminate egotistical pride. Renounce sexual desire and promiscuity, and give up emotional attachment. Only then shall you obtain the Immaculate God amidst the darkness of the world. Renounce selfishness, conceit, arrogant pride, and your love for your children and spouse. Abandon your thirsty hopes and desires, and embrace love for the God.-----Guru Ram Das, Raag Majh, AGGSD, Page, 141

ਗੁਣ ਗਾਵਹੁ ਪੂਰਨ ਅਬਿਨਾਸੀ ਕਾਮ ਕ੍ਰੋਧ ਬਿਖੁ ਜਾਰੇ ॥

ਮਹਾ ਬਿਖਮੁ ਅਗਨਿ ਕੋ ਸਾਗਰੁ ਸਾਧੂ ਸੰਗਿ ਉਧਾਰੇ ॥

Goun Gaavoh Pooran Avinassee Kaam Krodh Bikh Jaarai. Mahā bikẖam agan ko sāgar sāḏẖū sang uḏẖāre.

Sing the Glorious Praises of the Perfect, Imperishable God, and the poison of sexual desire and anger shall be burnt away. You shall cross over the awesome, arduous ocean of fire, in the Company of the Holy.-----Guru Arjun, Raag Sorath AGGS, Page, 615-6

ਕਾਮ ਕਰੋਧ ਵਿਣਾਸੁ ਸਿਫਤਿ ਸਮੇਉ ਹੈ ॥

ਸਤਿ ਸੰਤੋਖ ਉਲਾਸ ਸਕਤਿ ਨ ਸੇਉ ਹੈ ॥

Kaam Krodh ViNaas Sifit Samaiou Hai, Sat Santokh Olaas Sakat Seo Hai.

Conquering the lust and anger they have absorbed themselves in the praises of God.-----Bhai Gurdas, Vaar 3, Pauri 2

ਗਜ ਮਿਰਗ ਮੀਨ ਪਤੰਗ ਅਲਿ ਇਕਤੁ ਰੋਗੁ ਪਚੰਦੇ ॥

ਮਾਣਸ ਦੇਹੀ ਪੰਜਿ ਰੋਗ ਪੰਜੇ ਦੂਤ ਕੁਸੂਤੁ ਕਰੰਦੇ ॥

Gaj Mirg Meen Patang Al Eikat Eikat Roag Pachanday, MaNus Dayhee Panj Rog Panjay Doot Kasoot Karanday.

Elephant, deer, fish, moth and black bee have one disease each, namely, attraction for lust, sound, enjoyment, beautiful appearance and fragrance respectively, and they are consumed by them. But the man has all the five ailments and these five always create turbulence in his life.------Bhai Gurdas, Vaar 5, Pauri, 20

Conclusion:

Ultimately, our deepest needs are met through our relationship with God. It has created us that way.  No human being can reach deep inside us like God can, in order to meet our core needs for communion and intimacy with another.  We also need people to help us meet other social and emotional needs such as for companionship and friendship. These needs are universal and powerful. They must be met before we will find freedom in our sexuality. Until these emotional needs are satisfied, we will continue to struggle with inappropriate sexual desires.